The Cheaters Guide to not getting caught…
1. Always use a Pay as You Go phone.
2. Give your lover a fake, same gender name
3. Never say you’re working late
4. Get a close friend to provide regular alibis
5. Try not to treat your partner differently
6. Don’t change your appearance
7. Finally, deny, deny, deny. Everything.
London based Jorge Salgado-Reyes, owner of Private Investigation website londoninvestigates.co.uk believes that it’s better to have loved and left than to never have found out at all, and encourages partners to never turn a blind eye to these common signs of cheating.
Many cheaters have taken to buying a Pay As You Go phone, seeing as they are becoming increasingly cheaper. Mobile phone records are now the number one way that cheaters are caught out thanks to itemised billing. Cheaters can easily delete any naughty texts and their call records, covering any potential tracks entirely. If you find that your partner has a mobile phone that you did not know about, chances are they are hiding something from you. Or have turned to drug dealing.
Suspicious lovers are likely to go through phone contacts whether right or wrong, but are unlikely to pay much attention to somebody of their partners own gender, which is why many effective cheaters store their illicit lovers’ numbers under a fake name of their own sex. Jorge offered the following:
If a partner has a lot of contact with somebody that they have never mentioned, even if they are apparently of the same sex, it should not be a problem to ask who they are. As long as you are not too aggressive with your questioning, your partner should be happy to ease your worries. If they are not, alarm bells should start ringing.
Partners often use the almost laughably tired phrase, “I’m working late.” Spouses who often use this should be under suspicion if no extra money is actually being earned. “If, however, the money brought home is a bound wad of $50 notes, I would question any extra-professional activities your partner may be engaging in…” Jorge joked.
People who are being unfaithful tend to start treating their partners differently, either by overcompensating or turning off affection entirely. According to Jorge, “Any changes in affection, whether positive or negative, could be a sign of dishonesty. Unless the cheater is a sociopath, he or she will treat their partner differently, it’s all a question of degree: some people have far more self-awareness and self-control – better actors, basically and they’re the ones that are best at hiding affairs.”
Complete denial can often convince a partner that it’s “all in his or her mind”. Without concrete evidence and faced with a resolute denial, many partners ignore their head and listen to their heart.
In my line of work, I’ve learned two things about infidelity. Firstly, I’ve seen the hurt and suffering experienced by the victims. Secondly, I’ve seen how difficult it is to hide an affair.
Don’t do it. It’s likely to destroy your relationship, cause lasting damage to your partner, and your kids if you have any, it will create resentment that’ll linger and you’ll be burdened by feelings of guilt … it’s just not worth it.
“Ask yourself “would I do this if I knew I’d be caught”. If the answer is ‘no’, don’t do it.
“Because, if you do cheat, and your partner hires me, you will be caught!”
The Cheaters Guide to valentine’s Day was written by well-known PI, Jorge Salgado-Reyes. For further information, email us.
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